Welcome to the first week of my new What Makes You Happy? guest series. This week a lovely friend of mine, Jen, has put her own spin on the theme which I absolutely love! It’s a heart-warming read which I know you’ll enjoy, I was left smiling from ear to ear by the end of it, so without further ado, here is Jen’s “Ten Things My Daughter & I Do For Daily Happiness” …
Firstly, I just want to thank lovely Katie for giving me the opportunity to write a guest post for her ‘What Makes You Happy?’ series. I am so grateful because like any parent, my daughter’s happiness is paramount and I want to ensure she will love and enjoy her childhood, and I too have to feel happy in order to give my child the best of me. My name is Jen and I am yet to launch my blog, but I am over on Twitter (@Lifemilk2016) and Instagram (Lifemilk_). I have an 8-year-old daughter, Kourtney, and below I will list 10 things we do practically every day for our happiness, whether that be something I allow her to do independently or something we do together.
- “I love you” – This may be an obvious cliché one but I always tell my daughter that I love her, first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Of course I say it more often than this but I always make sure it is the first and last thing she hears, whether she is with me or not. I grew up in a household where it wasn’t said often and it left me feeling very unloved from a young age, which has had an effect on my adult life too, therefore I feel it is imperative that my child knows that I love her.
- Peak & Pit – Back in the day when I could tolerate the Kardashians and watched their show religiously, I fell in love with a cute sentiment which they do with each other called the ‘Peak & Pit.’ They would ask each other what their peak (highlight) and pit (downfall) was of somewhere they had visited. I decided to adopt this into our daily life and we have been doing it since Kourtney was about 6 years old (she is 9 next month). I would recommend this cute quick sentiment as she really does loves it, and from our experience, it aids self- growth too as we always try to work on the pits where applicable.
- Goals – This year, I have started asking her what she would like to achieve for the day as I wanted her to understand goals and the idea of working hard to get what you want in life. Initially, I did this solely for her development and growth but Kourtney has become very fond of this concept and is always keen to tell me what she would like to achieve for that day in particular. I get her cute notepads & diaries from the Pound shop or Wilkinsons as she likes to write them down, tick them off and refer back to them.
- Music – Every morning during our car journey to school, my princess has to read to me, however in the afternoon we play feel good uplifting songs from our playlist we created. We laugh and sing along without a care in the world, by the time we get out of the car we are so out of breath but it is well worth it!
- Supporting her dream – My daughter wants to be a doctor that specialises in cardio vascular disease and she is so passionate about her dreams. I allow 30 minutes most evenings either to watch ‘Operation Ouch’ over on the CBBC channel or to do research on her iPad. I am so proud of her and will do anything to support her dreams and ambitions. Can I just say, ‘Operation Ouch’ is a fantastic programme; it represents the phrase ‘learning is fun’ and is so informative. The programme educates children about medicine and biology, so I would definitely recommend it.
- Positive messages – As I mentioned before, Kourtney does have an iPad and so I send her daily positive messages filled with love and inspiration. I want her to feel constantly encouraged and supported as I think it is beneficial for happiness, ambition and growth. Her face immediately brightens when she is reading the messages, which tugs at my heartstrings.
- Walks – We love going on walks, well Kourtney is on her micro scooter speeding ahead but we have a laugh. It’s a great opportunity to talk, explore and goof about really, we go every Sunday and on the evenings when I am able to leave the office early. I wish I could make time for us to go on a walk more often as she loves the outdoors, but as we all know it’s not always possible when you have other commitments or when the weather is not on our side.
- “Big chef little chef” – We bake and cook together often, she loves it and it is preparing her for adult life, as I obviously won’t be cooking her meals forever. Kourtney loves to make our banana and raisin gluten free cookies, banana cake and roast dinners in particular. Yes, it can be a messy and stressful affair but I have learned to be patient and wait until afterwards to deal with the mess, although I must say, as she is getting older it is definitely getting easier.
- Free play – I know we all let our children play but I like to be quite structured and have a strict routine with Kourtney, however during the week providing there hasn’t been any bad behaviour (which can occur from time to time) I give her 20 minutes of free play after school as a daily mini treat. I am all for education and development but I want Kourtney to endure fun times too and I want nothing more than for her to enjoy and love her childhood. I sit and do role-play with either her Lego friends or Barbie’s for at least 10 minutes and it really does warm my heart to see her innocence and youth.
- Bubble baths – Last but by no means least, I allow her to have a couple of bubble baths a week with her lush bath bombs – she is obsessed. I am more of a shower person as they are quicker and straight to the point. But Kourtney is the absolute opposite; she would have 10 bubble baths a day if I let her! The girl is jumping for joy when I agree to let her have one, and in she goes… with her Barbie’s! But it makes her happy so I make it happen 🙂
So there you have it, 10 things my daughter and I do for daily happiness; I will not lie and say this happens every single day because when you are a parent, obstacles can occur, often. However, I always try to stick to a routine as my daughter responds well to it. Please feel free to contact me via my social media channels if you want to share anything that your child does or what you both do together for daily happiness, or if you want more detail on we do. Our children are not young for long, let’s enjoy them whilst we can. I love you, Kourtney.